Commitment to Buy

If you send a PM saying you want to buy a listed item and are given payment instructions, then PAY FOR IT.  If you change your mind, write and say so.  To say that you want to buy and then fail to communicate any further is just plain rude and inconsiderate.

This is seemingly the new world order this "ghosting" or as my grandma might have said lack of manners.

Yes, it’s not that difficult to follow up. To do otherwise is inconsiderate.

Yep, it happens. Can’t say I like it, but it’s part of the game.

With the ease of Paypal, it should be taken care of with the same speed as sending the PM indicating an interest in making the purchase. It is difficult to understand why the transaction can not be completed in within 15min.

"Want to buy" sounds like an offer.  Honor your commitments or promptly cancel.

There are people who pose as buyers but are merely kicking the tires.  It's not alway easy to spot them.  The best way to deal with them before you even know you have one is set parameters for the sale right up front.  Let them know that it's not the first person who says they want to buy the item that gets it.  It's the first person that pays for it gets the item.  That will flesh out the tire kickers and if a tire kicker is seriously considering buying they will realize that you won't "hold it" for them until they decide to either pay or change their mind.  That may not help you if the tire kicker is the only one looking but you never know when someone serious is going to come along and snap it out from under the tire kicker.  It may not seem fair to operate like that where some people like to honor someone's offer to buy.  But if they drag their feet, it usually means they are having second thoughts anyway.  So better for you to be the one setting the parameters up front.

I've had hundreds of transactions the last years. Only a very small percentage of members did this to me and most were new members with a few posts or no posts. Most will send a payment sooner or later. Of course, you have to be a little patient. Don't expect that all will send you the payment within a few minutes after sending them the payment details. Why being impatient?

Maybe its new members, maybe its "I gotta get permission from the wife" or maybe its something else not mentioned.

(11-23-2019, 05:47 AM)jackgoldman123 Wrote: Maybe its new members, maybe its "I gotta get permission from the wife" or maybe its something else not mentioned.

If someone has to get perimission to buy a shaving item, then he is doing something wrong...

Anyway. I'm not sure what led the OP to start this thread, but it's the seller's privilege with whom he deals with.

Can't argue with OP. Some people just lack common courtesy.

It's hard to figure people out even when the stuff they are getting is free.  The other day I posted on FB one of those computer desks that have a large space for a desktop monitor and a keyboard platform that slides out with shelves above and below.  We were going to just put it on the curb but it was hardly used and in perfect condition.  So, free to the first person who wants.  This guy responds that he wants it.  He asks if he can come after work.  I said sure.  He asked if it would fit in a Ford Explorer.  I thought it might be a bit big for that but it might fit.  He said, not problem.  He'll get his other truck.  So, he had all the tools to come and get the thing.  So we kept it aside for him.  Then about an hour before he was supposed to get it he says that he can't come for it after all.  I just scratch my head.  I suppose there could be any number of perfectly acceptable reasons for it but I'm still scratching my head on this one.

OK, now I have to eat a little humble pie.  The buyer got back to me with payment and an explanation that he had surgery.  My bad.

(11-29-2019, 10:08 AM)churchilllafemme Wrote: OK, now I have to eat a little humble pie.  The buyer got back to me with payment and an explanation that he had surgery.  My bad.

Glad it worked out, John.

And what do you guys think of sending someone a message that you can't pay right now, but give a certain date that you will pay?

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(11-29-2019, 04:05 PM)shadowman12 Wrote: And what do you guys think of sending someone a message that you can't pay right now, but give a certain date that you will pay?

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Did you ever even consider it may have been an emergency? Besides, this is between John and his buyer.

(11-29-2019, 04:11 PM)primotenore Wrote:

(11-29-2019, 04:05 PM)shadowman12 Wrote: And what do you guys think of sending someone a message that you can't pay right now, but give a certain date that you will pay?

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Did you ever even consider it may have been an emergency? Besides, this is between John and his buyer.

I saw that later after asking this question. Sorry

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I had a seller back-out. Funds sent and everything. Changing your mind is fine but at least be honest. No matter what, it certainly is a bad business practice, but mostly speaks loudly about the seller’s morale.